A New Approach

OK, I’ve admitted defeat. Maintaining three blogs wasn’t working out. So, I’ve merged them. Well, I merged my wedding blog and my everyday living blog. I decided to just use Facebook for the book club, since no one was using the blog anyway.

What I am planning to do, in order to blog more regularly–which I had started out the year trying to do anyway–is write a few times a week. I want to cover wedding stuff on a given day, foodie stuff on another day, everyday stuff on (you guessed it) yet another day. I figure if most of the bloggers I’ve subscribed to can post multiple times a week (sometimes multiple times a day!), so can I.

With our wedding only ten months (holy crap, are you kidding me??) away, I need to find time to plan and schedule tastings and visits with vendors. Oy Vey!

As the last few weeks of Seoul-living wind to a close, I do want to share a little more of our lives here in the big city. I will be uploading a few of my favorite things of Korea in the next few days, so be on the look out!

To help keep me honest on my pursuit of a healthier, fitter body, I will also be sharing some of the food I’m eating (aside from the strange junk food only found here, Korean food is a staple nearly every day during the work week and some weekends as well) and the exercising I’m doing (here in the city that means the walks and occasional bike rides I go on, but once I get home, gym routines and running will be added).

Latest Us Photo

Eleven more months…

and I know one thing is certain… we will definitely be amusing.

I’m still sold on the purple and green wedding, which is actually reassuring because, as my step-father likes to say, I’m like a Gemini–I change my mind constantly. I’m not actually a Gemini, I’m a Sagittarius, and I don’t know how that ties in with my personality. I don’t put much stock in the zodiac.

Our plan is a little geek, a little Sci-Fi, a little “bow ties are cool.”

I’m excited to get home and start working out the details with Katy, my Matron of Honor.

The Anti-Bride

I wouldn’t necessarily say that I am the Anti-Bride… but I kinda feel like I’m not as giddy about the whole being-a-bride thing.

A few points to ponder as we close in on our departure from Seoul:

1. My soon-to-be sister-in-law (wow, way too many hyphens there) sent me THREE bride/wedding mags. There are well over a thousand dresses in them. I liked four. Maybe five, and three of those are for my bride’s maids. The fiancée says it’s because I am picky. That may well be true, but still… hello?! Where are my girly genes?

2. My aunt is helping plan our honeymoon. And it’s going to be an amazing and romantic one. But, I’ve missed two online “appointments” with her to really hash out the details. Granted, the honeymoon is about a year away, but still. . .

3. I’m all over the green and purple motif, but I still have no real clue what it will include. I even build an inspiration board on Etsy. Seriously, too many options don’t help me. Lovely to look at though.

4. Finally, that whole Royal Wedding business. My mom  in Albuquerque got up at 2am to watch, and I really thought it had been on Tuesday (until I found out otherwise on Thursday). So, last night, my adorable mother and I skyped about the wedding. I didn’t even watch the ceremony because I was fiddling with etsy. I eventually tuned in onBBC and found the processional a bit anticlimactic. I wasn’t gaga over Catherine’s (Duchess of Cambridge) dress. I mean, it’s lovely and wedding-y…but meh. Even my fiancée was impressed with the carriages and regalia, not me…not so much.

Anyhow, this all kinda makes me sad.

Getting Political Up in Here

When I created our wedding website I wanted to include some gift registries at stores I liked. How fun is it to surf the Internet, pick out cool things like bread makers, dinnerware (service for eight), and bath towels? It’s A LOT of fun. Especially because we don’t have to pay for most of it, our wonderful friends and family do. Call me crazy, but I like presents.

So, I signed us up at two stores–Target and William-Sonoma.

Unfortunately, Jason came across a bit of news that we both found rather upsetting. Apparently, Target donated over $100,000 to a Minnesota Gubernatorial candidate. That’s all well and good, but he (Tom Emmer) was running on a STRONG anti-gay platform. Fortunately this guy lost the race, but the damage to Target was longer lasting.

Last month, Lady Gaga (who I can honestly say I feel very neutral toward in general) pulled her deal with the company. What is even MORE newsworthy, is that Target was actually given a score of 100 (out of a possible 100) by the Human Rights Campaign (HRC) prior to the company’s donation. The score reflects the company’s approval rating for their treatment of LGBT employees.

What does this mean for Jason and I? It means that we wrote a letter to Target. In the letter we let them know that we felt uncomfortable having a registry with a company who supported inequality at the level Tom Emmer does. We asked them to delete our registry account (since there is no apparent way of doing so by a user). I also pulled the link from our wedding website.

Today I did a little research into William-Sonoma. They have not responded to the HRC’s request to be polled. So, while they may be, in reality, a wonderful employer for LGBT employees, we’re not privy to that information at this time. I haven’t pulled their link yet, we’re still registered there, because we’re giving them the benefit of the doubt. The company is a well-documented supporter of human rights.

For our part, we ask that our friends and family buy gifts from local, Mom and Pop, businesses. We’re not expecting everyone to rush out to the local farmers markets. Just, be aware of who you’re giving your money to. After all, it really is the thought that counts.

Let the Planning…Begin

It’s officially 365 days until our nuptials, and my head is not quite spinning, yet. After today, we get to say that our wedding is less than a year away.

As I contemplated what I would write about on this very exciting (for me, anyway) day, I found that I haven’t really done a lot in the way of thinking about the more intricate details. Sure, I have skimmed through the “pages” of online wedding paraphernalia like the knot and wedding bee, but even as I shared my inspiration boards with you all last time, I didn’t necessarily feel committed to any one thing on those pages.

Accept the colors, those are already well established. Purple is MY color, and it goes well with green (unless it’s October, in which case purple also goes well with orange…but the wedding is in April, so green it is). And, our wedding cake toppers… which are the BOMB (still not sharing that one… it’s a surprise!). Oh, and Jason insists on a keg. Anyway.

Will this be me? Not likely.

Today I thought a long time about what my style is…actually. I’m pretty much Plain Jane, a jeans and a T-shirt kinda girl. But, when I think about style and sophistication, I think of Audrey Hepburn(naturally, and who wouldn’t?). So, I’ve decided that I want Audrey hair for my wedding day.

Style and Sophistication

I figured this image of Audrey Hepburn was a little more chic than what she is more iconically known for (Holly Golightly), and it would be a lovely style for the flowers I want in my hair.

Speaking of the flowers, these are violets. They are the flower of February birthdays. This works well for us, as Jason happens to have been born in February. The flower for December (my birth month) is the narcissus. Lovely as it is, it makes me think of the movie “Black Narcissus” whose plot line isn’t really in the same vein as my wedding. Great movie though.
So, with still a year to plan (and move 6,000+ miles back home) I am resting happily assured that at least my hair will look amazing and classic.

Squeezing In…

So, as most of you who know me… know… I have been struggling with my weight for years… decades even. And while the numbers on the scale fluctuate weekly, in my mind I am constantly battling myself.

Living in a foreign country, albeit a very healthy-eating one, and working (read, sitting on my butt) for 9ish hours a day has not helped me drop the weight. I have, actually, packed them on… culture shock (both Korean culture and work culture) has resulted in my desperate need to conserve the clothes I have.

When you’re over weight in a country where you don’t speak or read the language, in a country where the average size of women is about a 4, it’s common sense to write home, ask for staples like big-girl clothes from the the big-girl stores. But, when you only have one pair of jeans (because you’re an idiot and only asked for one pair) it’s a bit difficult not to wear the heck out of them… gaping holes be damned, I’m wearing my jeans!

A few months back, I decided that gaping holes in my jeans was not so great, so I ordered three pairs of jeans from L.L. Bean. While the hip measurements were a tad bigger than the hip measurement of my holy jeans, the waist was a tad smaller. This, due to the fack that Torrid is targeting 20-30 somethings, and the Bean leans toward the older crowd.

When I got my three pairs, even with their smaller waists (I figures that the Torrid jeans were a bit bigger than I needed in that area, so the smaller dimensions would actually be JUST right) I was excited. Until I tried them on… or rather, until I tried to try them on. So I had three pairs of jeans that if I tried REALLY hard, I could get them buckled… but I would not be able to undo them for the whole day. And I would lose a little bit of feeling in my lower extremities. And I would have a little bit of a hard time breathing. Sooo, they were folded up nicely and placed in my armoire and left alone.

Fast forward. Jason proposed to me on February 12 atop the Seoul Tower. Damnit, I need to lose weight for my wedding!

That being said, I still find it difficult to find my motivation. I’m more interested in counting down our time in Seoul, planning our move, watching Dr. Who. But in the back of my mind… it’s there. Tamara (Tammy-as I tend to refer to my nickname) you need to get serious. And I sporadically get serious.

I’m not condoning this sort of dieting. I have every intention of rejoining my belovedDefined Fitness when I get home and hiking the foot hills which are conveniently located a mere 1-2 miles from my front door. I will eat better. For now, I’m lazy and lose my focus.


Today I squeezed into a pair of my Bean pants. And it doesn’t hurt to breath. I can buckle them like a normal person (ie not writhing on the bed until they button up). I feel good. Good enough to work harder. Good enough to think that while I may be chubby (even a chubby bride), I can get healthier.

Just 377 More Planning Days Left…

until our wedding, and what have I got to show for it? Not too much.

It’s quite difficult to think about planning a wedding from over 6,000 miles away. But, we have settled on a few things, and we’re quite happy with the amount of love and support we’ve received in the form of offers from friends. One friend has offered to do our invitations, while another has offered to do the flowers. We just need a friend to offer to make the cake… hint hint, but just kidding.

We have picked out our colors, tentatively… since the wedding will be in April, we’re going with some pretty purples and greens. We even have our cake topper (not giving away the surprise).

But, the real planning won’t begin until we’re back in the states where we can easily tour venues, taste food, sample wine, go shopping and try on clothes. Because… the DJ won’t talk to me unless I call him, and apparently people don’t like to email their correspondence.

I considered just continuing on this blog for that as well. But I feel like I need a fresh new page to discuss the trials and triumphs that is/will be the planning of our wedding. So, I will keep up with this blog to talk about my foodie endeavors, but you can follow along here for all wedding-related goodness.