Going Through the Motions

And by that, I simply mean that an engaged couple, living abroad, planning their wedding from afar, can only pretend to know what may be delicious to serve for dinner at their wedding. When given an extensive (we’re talking pages and pages) list of possibilities from just ONE caterer, that couple can ONLY go through the motions. They can’t do much else but read the list, check what sounds good for their Southwest/locally-grown inspired menu. Well, they can salivate. We did that, too.

So here’s the place we’re thinking about booking to cater. They also make special shaped cakes, which is spectacular for what I want for the groom’s cake. Shall I divulge that yet? I suppose it’s only fair to let you in on the bonus theme. Ours will look a little something like this.

In other, wedding related news, Susan booked her flight for my August dress shopping weekend! I’m so excited! Now ALL my ladies will be there (minus the flower girl, but we’ll get to do some shopping around Christmas I think)! Plus my Momma (if she’s feeling up to it) and my Aunt Erin.

My Ladies of Bridal

The ladies in my bridal party include a rocket scientist, a newlywed, a newly (holy cow, how is she able to drive already?) licensed driver, a total ham, and a little cutie.


The inclusion of my friends Susan (the rocket scientist AKA Maid of Honor) and Katy (the newlywed AKA Matron of Honor) were fairly easy decisions to make.


The Rocket Climber

I’ve known this woman for nearly two decades. We’ve been through it all–band, boys, college, grad school, bar hoppin’, and job searchin’. But, at the end of the day, she’s truly one of the few people I can’t imagine experiencing this day without.

I’m so proud of her too. When I first met her, she was shy and hardly what you might call adventurous. But look at her! Scaling cliffs!

She’s become SUCH an independent and adventurous woman.

So, not only is she super smart (did I mention she’s a rocket scientist?), but funny, beautiful, adventurous, and talented.

I love her!


To be fair, I love all my girls!



It’s funny how life works sometimes. With Katy, we were destined to be friends. Case in point: The first time I met her, we were out with mutual friends and although we had never met before, we thought it would be HILARIOUS if she were to prank call my little brother (he was about 15-16 at the time). She had him convinced that they had met previously and he and his buddy, John, were actually considering sneaking out to meet up with her. And that was that… we went our separate ways.

A few months later, we were going to be hiring a new girl in the classified ads office at the Daily Lobo. Who should walk in but that same hilarious girl?

In the course of our friendship we’ve been each other’s shoulders to cry on, support systems, driving companions (around ABQ and to LA), we’ve even been each other’s “boss” (I wrote for her at the paper when she was the News Editor, and she freelances for me at the publishing company).


Who to ask to be my bridesmaids was a tough call.


Not because I didn’t know who to ask, just that I wasn’t sure they would want to. Teenagers… IE: Rachel (the newly [holy crap she’s 16!] licensed driver) and Jordan (probably the funniest girl I know).

Responsible Beauty
Goofy AND Gorgeous

Both of these young ladies are my cousins. They are sisters. And I’ve LOVED being able to watch them grow from little babies to the brave, conscientious, smart, and funny young women they are today. Words can’t begin to express how happy I am to have both of them participating in my wedding. (I’m a sap)


 This brings me to my ADORABLE flower girl.


She’s probably the cutest little girl I know. I’m so glad she will be joining us! Her mom (Jason’s sister) has been SO helpful with searching for dresses in the right color and style for our little flower girl.

Hello Cuteness


No Kids Allowed…

Today I was going to talk about one of the caterers Jason and I are considering hiring for the reception. I was going to talk about the food options and tasting I’ve scheduled for the week after we get home. Instead, I’m going to talk about an issue a friend of mine recently experienced, and which I have read about on the forums here.

One of my very good friends is getting married in mid-August. Today she posted an update about her frustration with certain people complaining about their children not being invited to her wedding. Her invitations were addressed to the people she was inviting. Even so, these people still complained when they heard those three words many parents find offensive: No kids allowed.

I can understand a parent’s frustration with not being able to bring their children; after all, babysitters can be expensive for a tight budget, their children are actually very well-behaved (or can be) in the right circumstances, they don’t like to be away from the kids. But, pushing that frustration onto a friend or family member who has invited that person to share in one of the most important moments of their lives is beyond rude.

 When a couple sends an invitation to someone they hope to have join them on their special day, it is not OK to complain about the restrictions that couple has enacted. IT’S THEIR WEDDING.

As it so happens, my friend and her fiancée decided to have a small, intimate ceremony and reception. That means that space is limited and there’s not much room for extra little bodies. Instead of fussing about why their perfect children were not allowed, these people should be congratulating the couple.

For Jason and I, we are having our reception/ceremony at a venue large enough to accommodate a slightly larger guest list. We have quite a few friends with kiddos and have included them in our list.

If you receive an invitation to someone’s wedding and it’s not addressed to each member of your family, they are more than likely not invited. Before going off the handle, stop and think. Practice good etiquette. Contact the bride or groom and ask for clarification. If your little cherubs are in fact not invited, you don’t need to be insolent–take it with a grain of salt. Remember that it’s not about you or even your kids necessarily; it’s about the bride and groom. There are a myriad of reason why they might be saying “no kids allowed.” Most likely it’s budgetary restraints.

On the bride/groom side of things, if you do not intend to invite kids (or certain kids), you should not list them on the formal invitation. You should refrain from adding “and family” at the end of an invite. This even includes Save-The-Dates (as the family will assume that if you sent the announcement to the entire family, the entire family is also invited to the weeding).

For all of you brides(to be) out there, hold firm to your budget and your guest list. Remember that, even though they are your friend or family member, you don’t need to cater to their demands. Smile and try to shrug it off. You’re getting married! Now, smile again.